We can be happier if we understand the difference between pleasure and gratification and work to enhance and balance both in our lives.
- Is won through the pursuit of a noble or higher purpose.
- Is the opposite of pleasure in that it creates meaning and blocks emotion.
- Creates a state of flow, total absorption, and suspension of consciousness, effortless involvement.
- Invests in the future.
- Is hard-won.
- Gratification is characterized by challenge, goals, feedback, concentration, and suspension of the awareness of time and self.
- Gratification can be cultivated by utilizing your signature strengths.
What gifts do you have to give to the world?
When are you doing what you really want to do?
Hobbies & Volunteer Work Goals – Example
- Teaching English in China
- Helping people with their resumes
- Throwing nice showers and parties
- Organizing and facilitating book discussions
- Decorating our house
- Home repair
- Gardening and garden design
- Writing songs, poetry, travelogues, screenplays, short stories
- Learning about other cultures
- Cooking and creating new recipes
|Animal-related||Beekeeping||Dog and cat breeding||Herpetoculture|
|Keeping or showing pets||Horses||Animal rescue|
|Arts and Crafts||Crocheting||Building Dollhouses||Making Dolls|
|Fossils, rocks||Comic books||Currency|
|Rocks and minerals||Scale models||Stamps|
|Trading baseball cards||Wine labels||Shot glasses|
|Computer-related||Animation||Computer games||Graphic designs|
|Cooking||Baking||Barbecuing||Creating new recipes|
|Learning ethnic cooking||Trading recipes|
|Electronics||Hardware hacking||Radio or CB radio||Robots|
|Games||Board games (Chess, Scrabble)||Card games (Bridge, Poker, Backgammon)||Dominoes|
|Currency bill tracking||Geocaching (treasure hunting)|
|Literature||Reading||Writing (Autobiography, Magazine articles, Journaling, Screenplays, Short stories)||Learning foreign languages|
|Model Building||Aircraft||Cars||Military Vehicles|
|Movie models||Model houses||Matchsticks models|
|Motor vehicles||Antique cars||Kit cars||Motorcycles|
|Music||Singing||Playing instruments||Musical composition|
|Recording old music||Being in a choir||Listening to music|
|Going to concerts||Music history|
|Observation||Astronomy||Train, plan, bus spotting||Bird watching|
|Butterfly watching||People watching||Animal watching|
|Canoeing and kayaking||Scuba diving||Gardening|
|Hiking||Kite flying||Mountain climbing|
|Rafting||Rock climbing||Stone skipping|
|Photography||Black and white||Scenery||Travel|
|Puzzles||Jigsaw puzzles||Crossword puzzles||Word seek puzzles|
|Restoration||Antique machinery||Early computers||Houses|
|Table tennis||Ultimate Frisbee||Golf|
|Miscellaneous||Science experiments||Film-making||Historical reenactment|
|Clean up||Environmental protection||Lead nature walks|
|Building Homes||Habitat for humanity||Peace Corps||Overseas|
|People Oriented||Churches||Feed People (Meals on Wheels, Project Angel)||Peace Corps|
|Schools||Teaching English overseas||Tutoring|
|Boards (non-profit, School Boards)||Shelters (homeless, battered women, orphanages)||Overseas community development|
|After school programs||Hospitals||Hospice|
|AIDs||Small business support||Human rights activism|
|Crime victim support||Neighborhood watch||Goodwill/Salvation Army|
|Women’s Volunteer Groups|
Elder Wisdom Circle: www.elderwisdomcircle.org. Elders 60 to 105 counsel younger people online on careers, siblings, relationships, sex.
International: Paid Experiences Overseas
Heifer: Women’s Projects in Vietnam and Cambodia. Arlene Withers participated.
Cross Cultural Solutions
Habitat for Humanity
Long Beach Women’s Shelter
Volunteers Give Advice to People Who E-mail Questions:
Junior League Long Beach
Jobs for Career Downsizers
Hobbies/Avocations/Volunteer Work Goals