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Donna Schilder

Professional Certified Coach

Leadership, Career, & Business Coach

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Donna Schilder

5 Power Steps For Facilitating Bad Meeting Behaviors

For many reasons, leaders allow disruptive behaviors to continue in meetings: they have gotten complacent, they don’t want to cause conflict, they don’t know how to intervene in the behaviors. Don’t let disruptive behaviors negatively impact the productivity of your organization or department. Instead, utilize the 5 Power Steps to Facilitating Bad Meeting Behaviors.

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Recommended Reading for Leaders

  Encouraging the Heart:  Do you wish you were better at motivating your staff? Encouraging the Heart is a wonderful book on how to Increase your Ability to motivate your staff through encouragement. You will learn the Seven Essentials of Encouraging and will find tangible actions to take to be more encouraging. You will also find an Encouragement Skill Assessment to help you assess your skill level and uncover areas to improve so that you will be the most encouraging leader you can be. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: What can I say? These are great principles to live by. Toxic Success:  We can all get caught up in working so hard that we lose focus on what we are working at.  This book is for the person for whom “exhausted” has become normal.  “Exhausted” isn’t normal. This book will help you redefine success and find more balance in your life. The First 90 Days:  Creating success in the first 90 Days is critical for all new leaders.This book will give you a roadmap to understanding the challenges and opportunities in your new position, negotiating a productive working relationship with your new boss, creating the appropriate coalitions for success, building early successes, and creating the right team.   Who Moved My Cheese:  One of the most valuable lessons I learned from this books is the need to recognize the “difference between activity and productivity.” The Power of Full Engagement:  This book teaches us to manage our energy, not our time.  It identifies four sources of energy:  Physical, Emotional, Mental, and Spiritual. We must draw on all of these to be at our best and we must also have adequate times of personal renewal to maintain them. The High Achiever’s Guide to Happiness:  Only 8% of high achievers are happy, even with all of their… Read More

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Constructive Feedback Model

  One of the best tools I’ve found for giving feedback to others is called the Constructive Feedback Model.  It takes the sense of personal attacking out of giving feedback, helps you use “I” statements, and helps you express your feelings so that the receiver can more fully understand the impact of their behavior on you.  The model is below.   CONSTRUCTIVE FEEDBACK MODEL   When you _______________________ (behavior)   I feel ___________________________   Because I _______________________ (consequences) (Pause)   I would like you to_________________ (desired behavior)   Because _________________________ What do you think? ________________ (seek agreement)   Tips for Giving Constructive Feedback Focus on sharing ideas, not giving advice. Focus on exploration of alternatives. Feedback a description of a behavior, not a judgment. Protect others feelings.   Tips for Receiving Constructive Feedback Try to understand the other person’s point of view. Be open to how others view you, even if it’s painful. Look for opportunities for personal and professional growth. Don’t take it personally. Instead partner to look for ways to fix the issue. Actively listen (Listen before you speak). Avoid explaining or making excuses. Empathize with the other person.   Over the years, I have seen that introducing the Constructive Feedback Model to an Executive Team and reinforcing use of it, took them from being dysfunctional and unproductive, to being functional and high performing. I believe it’s because the model helps people deliver feedback in a way that preserves the other person’s dignity. Also, it gives people a tool to use in giving the feedback, which leads them to give more feedback to others instead of resenting them. In addition, talking about how the behavior impacts you helps the person receiving the feedback see it from your perspective, which motivates them to change the behavior.   Would you… Read More

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Adreneline Self Test

  Some of us use a continuous dose of Adreneline to live our lives.  We rush through everything, live in fear, and/or push ourselves mercilessly to accomplish everything in our overcommitted lives.  This use of constant Adreneline has been proven to cause:  heart attacks, strokes, high blood pressure, digestive issues, headaches, back pain, mental illnesses (e.g., depression, anxiety disorder). Take the test below to see if you are using “Adreneline” to run your life.   Adreneline Self-Test

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